And here’s why I think “You just need to cheer up!” is the downfall of civilization: It’s the fact that we’re treating sadness like it’s a heart attack or a seizure, something that requires an emergency response. It’s not – it’s a perfectly normal, valid state of mind. Sometimes things don’t go your way, so you get sad about it. then things get better and you’re happy and the happiness is sweeter because you remember being sad.
And I think this belief that a normal, well-adjusted human should be happy every waking moment is killing us. It trains us to be constantly seeking little pleasures and distractions (Video games, porn, food, weed) to prevent deep reflection on a bad situation, to the point that we consider a “normal” mood is just a state of breezy distraction.
I mean, think about it. any kind of success (Financial, personal, spiritual, whatever) depends on your ability to delay gratification. You tolerate the tedious hell of learning a new task, and then it pays off after you’ve learned it. you tolerate the humiliation of failing at something new until you get good enough not to fail. But during the hard part—the soreness that comes before the muscle—you have all these voices telling you, “Any pain and sadness you feel isn’t normal and needs to be cured immediately.”
So you quit and go masturbate and take a nap. Then you wake up and find its 20 years later and your life hasn’t advanced an inch."
— Jason Pargin
"Work hard in the world, Arjuna, but for work’s sake only. You have every right to work but you should not crave the fruits of it. Although no one may deny you the outcomes of your efforts, you can, through determination, refuse to be attached to or affected by the results, whether favorable or unfavorable."
"The central points of issue, Arjuna, are desire and lack of inner peace. Desire for the fruits of one’s actions brings worry about possible failure. When you are preoccupied with the end results you pull yourself from the present into an imagined, usually fearful future. Then your anxiety robs your energy and, making matters worse, you lapse into inaction and laziness."
"One does not accomplish great ends in some by-and-by future, O warrior. Only in the present can you hammer out real achievement. The worried mind tends to veer from the only real goal - realizing the Atma (soul), uniting with Divinity, the true self within."
"The ideal, Arjuna, is to be intensely active and at the same time have no selfish motives, no thoughts of personal gain or loss. Duty uncontaminated by desire leads to inner peacefulness and increased effectiveness. This is the secret art of living a life of real achievement.""
— Bhagvad Gita
graduating early and being excited about the future doesn’t make me a boring 20 year old with a misguided perspective of position.
just like how your denial and devastation towards graduation doesn’t make you just another unemployed 22 year old with an overpriced degree.
basic bitches get out of my way please.
I think of self improvement as burning away the lies you tell yourself and the weaknesses inside until your true self shines, strong and unafraid.
— Terry Pratchett
Psychology, Earlham College.
Elegant and tired
Cut up from the chase
Still, i so admire
Bloodshot your smile
Delicate and wild
Forgive me, she was styled
Rip right through me"
— Universally Speaking
— Ashbel Wall, the last member of the Brooks family to be involved with Brooks Brothers, in 1950 when a car crashed through the showroom window the day before the grand opening of the new Brooks Brothers Chicago store. (via voxsart)